Archive for March, 2013

.: A thought on “My First Rejection :.

Re: Publishers Requirements and Rejected Submissions
– Publishers (typically) will NOT accept any material that has been previously published, even if only on a blog!

A helpful warning to those who don’t know.
I had been told by another writer that this was so.
Though I do not agree with the validity of this claim,
Which to me smacks of greed without shame.
The written word is a free and noble steed
To be shared far and wide for all people to read.
For the information which those words might contain
No ‘one man’ may poses or seek to lay claim
Intangible truths or thoughts and ideas
To blog these is best and share with our peers!

.: Talking to Fairytale Epidemic about “278 ~ Male Friends :.

Comment Disclaimer: Cynical viewpoints may be expressed!

I’m not sure where to start so I’ll just jump right in, neck deep…

Firstly: If you’re a beautiful young woman, which I think it’s fair to say (without sounding too much like a creep) you are, then more often than not guys will have interests in you that you simply will not share / reciprocate. This (potentially) leaves you in the rather unfortunate situation that the vast majority of men you encounter will be at best a flattering non-interest and at worst a pestering nuisance.

The trick I suppose is finding a way to deal with all of the crap that floats your way in such a way as to dismiss it and let it carry on right past you, whilst still being able to spot the rare odd ‘gem’ that might otherwise be lost in the sea of dull rocks.

The counter-point to this is that some things that might look like dull rocks on the outside have rare and precious gems inside them, others may simply need a polish.

The problem as I see it is that in todays self-centered, consumeristic, ‘disposable’ lifestyles where everything is throw away, many (perhaps the majority) of people see ‘love’ this way too. Since many people never really know what true love is they simply learn to want to find comfort and company so as to not be alone. Sadly of course too much these days ‘comfort’ and/or ‘company’ is taken to simply be the physical side of things, and in this way relationships become shallow, meaningless acts of self satisfying lust and loathing which when they break or end we simply replace with a new one, like a light bulb that has blown or an old toothbrush that has worn out.

Some people see it this way and they take a pro-active role in this lifestyle, actively throwing away old for new relationships like they would shop for clothes or something. Others merely do this on a purely functional level – when one relationship breaks or ends then they try to find a new one. The former typically being the ‘dumper’ and the latter typically the ‘dumpee’.

BUT (and we’re talking J-Lo x Beyonce = One very BIG but!) for someone who either has experienced true love and wants to again, or even someone still holding out for that first “OMG WOW”, you have to learn to be very patient and very self sufficient in terms of maintaining yourself, your own happiness and contentment in life. — My theory is “You have to be happy in yourself before you can be happy with someone else”! — So this is the challenge and struggle, to NOT give up and slip in to the same shallow practices as those around us but to maintain ourselves and maintain our hope and to keep ourselves open to new people and possibilities despite all the other crap we may get drifting in to and out of our lives.

I do think that men and women CAN be ‘just friends’ but that this is much less common than the situation(s) where at least one of the parties involved wants things to be more. Really both people have to be stable and happy in themselves and not to be looking for anything more than friendship. Of course sometimes things develop in to more over time, but then this is a natural process and creates (in my view) a better and more stable relationship (potentially). Truthfully good friendships can also help us to maintain ourselves in the absence of a romantic relationship, although they have to be ‘good’ friendships too. For me at least in all forms of relationship I seek an open and honest connection with no pretexts or pretenses, sadly these days even finding a GOOD and genuine friend seems just as hard as finding love.

Also — my apologies, I think this ‘comment’ is actually longer than your post. Oh well, thanks for letting me share my thoughts/feelings

mirrored-mask
So used to darkness
And numbness you’ve become
That light actually scares
And angers
Your throng

Warmth,
Whilst you feed on it
Willfully

And Greedily
With a hunger that never
Relents,

Is mocked
And aggressively
Stamped out

And any feeling
Such as Happiness
Love or Compassion
Causes you pain

Through guilt
And with hateful resentment
You swear
That it is your mission
To eradicate these
From your World

To bring it
Only darkness
Because
In the darkness
You never have to see
Yourself

To see you
Reflected
In the eyes of others

You seek to disguise
The abomination
You have become
So that through blindness
You may become
Ignorant

Believing this
Will bring you peace
And from life’s great burden
Release
Because…

When life gave you a challenge
You decided
The hill was too steep
And so
Rather than rising
You let yourself
Sink
In to the deep

——————————

But you are not me
My brother
Staring back

I chide you not
But embrace
Arms encircling you until
Encompassed

I hide not
From the knives
You seek to bury
In my back

But look you
Straight
In the face
And Smile

I will be strong
And resist your pull
Stand tall

My hand
Is here to guide you
When you fall

And whilst your rage and anger
Blows winds in circles
Gushing round
I sit
Calm
In the center

That when you subside
And open your Eye
I will be there

Come
Join me in the center
In the glorious Sunshine
And be at peace

Beaches of Happiness

Posted: 29 Mar 2013 in Poetry
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The tides of Love may carry you far and wide
But may they always wash you up on to the Beaches of Happiness

Music Video of “Letter From God To Man” by Dan le Saac vs. Scroobious Pip